New Office Opens in Monterey
I recently opened a new private practice office in Monterey where I primarily treat women and their intimate partners. In addition to providing traditional therapy at my office, I offer innovative workshops and online therapy options to my patients locally and worldwide.
Give and Receive the Emotional and Sexual Intimacy You Want and Deserve
If you’re seeking a more sex-positive life, sex therapy is a good investment of your time, energy and money. Regardless of your specific challenges, relationship status, sexual identity, problems or preferences, I can assist you in designing a pleasurable, personalized sexual lifestyle.
Together, we can be successful if you’re willing to:
- Experience emotional and physical pleasure with yourself and/or a partner.
- Step out of your comfort zone and talk honestly about your feelings, thoughts and desires.
- Overcome negative feelings (anxiety, guilt, embarrassment, shame) frequently associated with confronting sexual issues.
- Assume an open-minded attitude toward exploring and learning about new sexual ideas, behaviors and feelings.
- Communicate your responses to new learning with me and/or your partner.
- Make appointments and homework assignments a high priority.
As a sex therapist, I can help you achieve the sex life you really want and deserve. If positive change is your goal, I will partner with you to achieve it.
Traditional Sex Therapy
I have assisted hundreds of women, men and couples in overcoming physical and emotional challenges to live more joyful, fulfilling and sex-positive lives.
From a clinical perspective, I can help you address a broad spectrum of personal and relationship sexual issues and challenges, including:
- Issues related to sexual desire and dysfunctions
- Orgasmic and performance issues
- Compulsions and addictions
- LGBTQ orientations and relationships
Individually or as a couple, if you’re ready to commit to an open, honest therapy experience, I’m excited to meet you and begin our work together.
Low vs. High Sexual Desire
I frequently help couples reconnect with one another after a significant decline in sexual desire, activity and intimacy. The length and severity of this decline affects both partners differently and contributes to an overall lessening of relationship quality.
In every sexual and emotional relationship, there is a High-Desire Partner (HDP) and a Low-Desire Partner (LDP). When the disparity between low and high desire becomes substantial, couples tend to withdraw from one another. Conflicts, dissatisfaction and frustration often follow.
Here’s the good news: This painful emotional and sexual disconnect doesn’t need to become permanent. Motivated couples who have not had sex in months, years and even decades can achieve meaningful reconnection.
Once the complex causes and dynamics of diminished and elevated desire are addressed and understood, reconciliation and reconnection can occur organically. Through therapy, I can help both of you embrace an attitude of hope, forgiveness and acceptance of human imperfection. Healing and balance are achievable goals if you choose to seek help and take action.
Frankly, most licensed marriage counselors are not equipped to address the complex sexual and emotional challenges of resolving high and low sexual desire couples. Advanced levels of training and expertise are required, and choosing a therapist with AASECT certification can help ensure that you will achieve more successful outcomes.
Sex Addiction Recovery
- Do you find yourself increasingly drawn to viewing pornography?
- Would you rather watch pornography and masturbate than have sex with your partner?
- Do you secretly lead a “double life of intrigue and cover-up”?
- Do you both love and hate your fantasies, behaviors and desires?
- When in “the zone,” does your heart race and breath shorten? Do your palms sweat, your feelings intensify and your mind… (well, let’s just ask, is your judgment impaired)?
Sex Addict Behaviors
It’s not too difficult to determine if a healthy interest in sex has transitioned into a possible addiction. Typical activities and behaviors indicative of addiction are:
- Compulsive use of porn — with or without masturbation
- Anonymous online hookups
- Multiple affairs/infidelities
- Virtual sex, sexting, abusing social networking
- Frequent visits to adult bookstores, strip clubs, sensual massage practitioners
- Multiple unsuccessful attempts to moderate or stop inappropriate behavior
If you feel ready to take action and explore your options for recovery from the cycle of addiction, guilt, shame and remorse, I can help you explore this issue in a compassionate and nonjudgmental manner.
Sex Addiction Recovery From a Woman’s Perspective
Let’s face it — most sex addicts are male and most partners are female. Certainly not all, but most of the collateral damage of addiction is experienced by women and children.
Women may sense that their partner is disengaged from the family, disconnected from them emotionally and sexually, and somehow “troubled.” Feeling concerned and seeking answers, most addictions and infidelities are discovered by women searching through their partner’s emails, texting and related online search activity.
- Do you suspect (or have you discovered) that your partner is having an affair?
- Did you “catch” your husband watching pornography and are you worried about your intimate relationship?
- Is your partner spending more and more time (and perhaps money) on the Internet, viewing pornography or actually participating in “virtual,” but very real, sexual activity?
If you suspect that your partner may be addicted to sex or is having an affair, you may benefit from professional help. Mending any relationship fractured by addiction or infidelity is challenging work for most individuals and couples.
While much of the attention is focused on the behavior and recovery of the “offender,” it is really the women and children who experience the greatest loss and psychological trauma. Betrayal of trust is the most hurtful dynamic and side effect of addiction for women, and it is a major focus of my practice.